Why People Don't Change

Recently, I spoke about the universe constantly changing, yet some souls never seem to change. As Lightworkers, we get the call from the universe to step in and provide some form of message or direction. We do this as a charity without payment or expectation, and all too often, our efforts make no difference.

You can only evolve your own soul.

The universe would say, "You can only evolve your own soul," it's not your mission to make corrections or step in and do the heavy lifting to save a soul. This is one of the most challenging aspects of being a Lightworker, but that is a newsletter for another day.

Today, I am writing about the painful failure of a love relationship because of change. Notice I didn't say "not changing," remember, change is always occurring whether you feel change or not. 

"Not changing" is one of the most popular spiritual counseling relationship issues people seek help with. It's mostly "my partner doesn't want to change" and some "I don't want to make the changes my partner wants me to make." As a Lightworker, one observation should jump out at you, but I'll get to that later.

Why do people not change? These are the most common reasons based on years of spiritual counseling sessions.

1. They can't see the path they should take. 
2. They have insecurity issues that stem from childhood.
3. They are comfortable living with less and wouldn't work for more.
4. They are dealing with untreated depression.
5. Living with addiction.
6. They live with self-imposed anger or disappointment.
7. They have made mistakes in the past and are afraid of making mistakes again.
8. They have been hurt in the past.

We can all empathize with those in these situations because we've been there ourselves at one time or another, but how can any of these issues ultimately lead to the painful end of a soulmate relationship?

They are all examples of personality disorders. A personality disorder (it sounds worse than it really is) is a long-term pattern of behavior that significantly differs from what is expected. It affects how people think about themselves, altering their feelings about others. Here are some character traits to look for:

• They feel overwhelmed by negative feelings like distress, anxiety, worthlessness, or anger.
• They avoid other people and social gatherings.
• They feel empty and emotionally disconnected.
• They can have odd behaviors that seem harmless but odd nonetheless.
• They have difficulty maintaining stable and close relationships, especially with partners, children, and secondary family members.

In these situations, too much effort is spent on the battle of desired change. The acceleration of friction from different points of view becomes so tiresome and without a solution that the only remedy is to part ways. 

The relationship never combines energies as "one union" to identify, address, and heal the issues resulting in the personality disorder. The path of change is valid and essential to evolve. It is the method of achieving the desired path that is overlooked, if not ignored.

By the way, if you haven't had a relationship reading done, you can visit any of the astrology signs on Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com and see generic relationship compatibilities based on thousands of readings. They are listed on the right side of each page and link to the corresponding relationship. Every little bit helps when it comes to relationship communication.

What about the observation for later?

And the one observation I said I would get to later? Whenever you hear yourself saying my, me, I, etc., you are not harnessing the energy of the light. Speak like this, and you are focused on the changes you want to occur. Say more to you, we, and us, and you may see just how clear the path of no change is to overcome.

Love and light,

Jordan